Take Me Out? I don't think so...

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There's something about ITV's hit show Take Me Out that places me in a very nervous disposition.

Late last year, I posed the question of whether dating was actually awkward. I think elements of the programme reinforce the probing of the credibility of dating. The entertainment aspect of shows like the one that Bolton's Paddy McGuinness hosts or even Blind Date with Liverpool's own Cilla Black appeals to many people and that idea of having fun certainly comes across well enough.

But the bottom line is, dating fails and love happens by accident in nearly all cases. Love happens when you least expect it. It will come to you in the strangest way imaginable, at a time and place you didn't choose, desire nor expect. Love is one of those things where if you push for it, you certainly won't get it. No amount of money can ever buy it.

And what's more, I have a feeling that some of those contestants, from both genders, try to portray themselves as someone else whilst not being themselves, in order to win over the hearts and minds of those that they want to welcome into their own lives. That's really sad because they're doing no justice to themselves, unless of course they purely went on the show to earn their five minutes of fame.

Its a bit of a paradox of a situation really because you're actually defeating the whole purpose of trying to find yourself that special someone. Why not just be you and live your life the way you want without anyone trying to influence your own ways?

So whilst you watch those kind of shows, never despair and think you have to surrender your autonomy. People love you for who you are. And what's more, your special moment will come.