Being a passionate romantic matters!

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BBC Radio Scotland's Call Kaye programme on Monday posed the question of "How important is it to have romance in a relationship?" - my answer is that its fundamentally important.

Romanticism is the fuel to any successful relationship. Romanticism is like a car key - you can't start and drive the car without it. And without it, the relationship goes nowhere. And even if you feel it can go somewhere without it, then well, no it can't actually. Either it ends in misery, amicably or its just seems to be the most, I imagine, boring relationship in the world. And how miserable would any relationship be if it was just based solely on convenience, lust without love and/or nothing else?

And I mean what's more exciting than walking into the house after a long hard day at work and seeing your partner for the first time in hours? You can't help but smile at him or her. You can't help but give the love of your life a big kiss and a comforting, warm and happy hug. Its beautiful. Its the best part of the day and no human being can resist the heart warming effect that such activity has on a human being.

When your partner celebrates a success of your own or theirs and you share that joy, then that's romantic. When your partner is feeling not so good and is in need of help, it is only natural to rush to their aid and support them and that's romantic. When your partner and you talk to each other about your feelings, thoughts and fears then that's romantic. Love is romantic.

So all I'm going to say this week is two things. Firstly, if you think I'm absolutely insane and running away with myself then I'm afraid to disappoint you. You don't enter relationships as if its another life tick box exercise. Relationships are sensitive and precious things to have in life. If you cringe at the idea of being a romantic then you may well have major trouble ahead. So don't be afraid and learn the art of romanticism. It will benefit you hugely in the future.

But if you are a romantic person then you will absolutely be successful. Romanticism is a winner in any relationship and it has worked since human beings came to existence. Why should it stop now? Its human nature to show love to your partner. Its good for you, your partner and your relationship. Its fun. Its healthy. And it blesses you and those around you with happiness.

And as a Scot, I can only recommend reading some of Robert Burns' poetry if you need a bit of inspiration. After all romanticism rules!