Are single people hated?

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In life, I think there are two different groups of people who are single.

A - those who don't mind it, or even love it.
B - those who do mind it and feel they haven't got much of a choice but to live as a single person.

Almost two months ago, BBC News published a thought provoking article titled "Why are couples so mean to single people?", written by James Friel, which explores being single.

Now, I would never like to think that I am some kind of advocate for negativity but on this occasion I cannot resist. And to those who love their single status or even to some people who are married or in a relationship, then I'm afraid to warn you that my viewpoint here is going to be very biased.

Many people fit into group B rather than group A. Many people don't like being single (some people I think pretend they don't mind but I can only suspect that they really do). And many people even feel ashamed, walking around like an abject failure thinking what they've done to deserve being forced getting stuck being single.

But these people are free of any blame. And they should never be blamed.

Because the last thing they deserve is to be looked down upon or even laughed at by other people, particularly those in a relationship, simply because they have nobody in their life. Its not funny. Its a tragedy frankly. I'm even going to go much further and condemn this kind of behaviour as an absolute and completely despicable obscenity.

Even being asked why on earth a single person is single can stretch the elastic band a little too far, however at the same time, I can really only guess that probably not everyone who is single resents being asked that. Some actually need someone to initiate a conversation in order to achieve an opportunity to express themselves over their desires for a healthy and happy love life. After all, its good to talk.

Sadly there are maybe too many couples where it seems they are largely unsympathetic and even arrogant. I pray for them. But many people have enough humility to wish the best for other human beings who are on the search for their perfect partner, especially when the going gets tough. I absolutely resent this intoxicating nonsense that people wish for the worst for other people - its so inhumane and immoral to think like that. And thankfully many people don't think like that at all, contrary to what others claim.

But as heartbreaking the issue is, thankfully, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Things do happen for a reason after all.

It may be worth taking a few of these tips on board:

- Keep looking your best, always. Looks count and people will judge you by your appearance.
- Don't keep questioning yourself. Just be who you want to be. But don't be a negative individual.
- Do things that satisfy you. Like becoming a volunteer for a charity, taking up a sport or learning a language.
- Go and build yet sustain yourself a stable social circle and find some great friends.

For those people who genuinely love being single, their choice in life is very much respected and its good to see that they are enjoying life and their single status.

For everyone else however, there is bound to be someone for everyone in the future, even during the most pessimistic and dark of times. Surely?